Prior to motherhood I guess what I found sexy in terms of men was pretty standard.
A great smile. Good hair. Sinewy, strong arms. A nicely fitted suit. Great manners (this still holds true, in fairness, few things beat being a gentleman when it comes to upping the hotness factor). A sense of humor. You know, just your regular old “wow, he’s hot” check list points.
The reason I fell head over heels in love (and subsequently accidentally pregnant) with my OH was a combination of all of the above, I guess. Hair, smile, ability to look totally delicious in a suit. Tick, tick, tick. Pregnant.
These days, however, much as I still of course can appreciate a fit man in a sharp suit, there are so many other things that have taken precedent when it comes to determining someone’s hotness. And they say motherhood shouldn’t change who you are…
Nowadays, I have been known to go weak at the knees at the following (in no particular order):
1. Men carrying kids, scooters and cups of take-away coffee through the park
I have a whole new level of appreciation for men with the ability to multi-task. Plus; surely this is how they keep those arms nice and strong, no?!
2. Men negotiating tantrums
Seriously; I could not find it hotter if I observed someone negotiating major international trade-deals or peace agreements than I do when my OH talks our two-year-old up off the Tesco floor.
3. Men hoovering
It’s sad, I know, but I now find this mega-hot. Like; Tom Hardy hot.
4. Men driving sensible cars with multiple car seats and a bumper sticker with “baby on board” on it
Nothing un-sexy about a family guy, girls!
5. Men carrying shopping bags (especially in the company of their pregnant wives)
I think this is the good aul’ manners thing, again.
6. Men changing nappies
You won’t think it is possible until you find yourself in the situation, but seriously; watching your OH dust talcum powder on your baby’s freshly cleaned butt will make you feel as amorous as you once felt watching him negotiate a crowded bar while carrying two cocktails glasses in his hand. Truth.
8. Men with really newborn babies
This has the power to make my ovaries skip multiple beats. (Like only David Beckham could back in the day.)
9. Men running after kids learning to cycle their bikes
It’s the ultimate dad thing to do. And proof he is a total keeper. And hot. And keeps himself fit – it’s hard work running after a moving bike, you know.
10. Men who handle bath time so their wives can have a glass of wine and watch E! News
This is now officially the new measurement of HOT in my book. Tom Hardy wouldn’t even get a look-in when my OH steps out from the bathroom, our two clean kids wrapped in bath towels, when I have spent the last 17 minutes slumped on the sofa gorging on re-runs of red carpet fashion.
So, so sexy.
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