“I realise I must be quite unhinged…”
A mum has begged for help after she admitted she was unable to deal with the thought of her four-month-old son growing up one day and getting married.
The woman explained on Mumsnet that she feared she would turn into one of “those” mother-in-laws, so she wanted advice on how to ease her obsession with the baby.
She wrote:
“I worship the ground my DS walks on and I don’t know how to stop myself.
“I watched a video titled ‘to the love of my son’s life’ in Facebook – basically an emotional video with emotion prodding music, telling the mysterious girl
or boythat I’m doing my best to make him into a lovely young man. One day he will want to spend his days off work with you, will want to spend time with you blah blah, but right now he needs and wants me’.“Goes on to say how proud I will be on the wedding day and how I promise to love you too, for you are the person he’s chosen, etc etc
“I watched the video crying and then felt a sudden rage that one day someone would be stealing my DS from me!”
The woman went on to explain that she wouldn’t mind him loving another man, so there were “no issues there”.
She continued:
“One day I won’t be the only woman in his life! (Providing he’s straight) Another woman will fill his heart with love.
“Is this how those MIL threads come about, from horrendous mums like me?”
“I think I’m a bit obsessed. I iron his vests and feel slight guilt if he’s forced to wear one I haven’t ironed. Even if you can’t see it under his immaculately ironed things.
“I tell DH I can’t have any more children, in terrible fear they won’t live up to my magical DS and his amazing charms and looks.
“I realise I must be quite unhinged but at least I have the good grace to admit it… I think.”
The Mumsnet commenters were quick to share their advice, with many mums assuring her that once her son starts to “move and cause havoc and mess”, she would snap out of it.
One person wrote:
“Don’t worry the teenage years will probably make you wish someone would take him away, not to mention the toddler years..which are pretty much the same.”
Another added:
“This should wear off as he gets older… teething may help… when the little woppet starts to move and causes havoc and mess everywhere.”
