Mum-of-five’s open letter calling out husband for his ‘injustices’ is too relatable

“The first time you have a baby you’ll notice a few injustices…”

A mum-of-five has been praised for her candid post calling out her husband for his “injustices”.

Aussie blogger Constance Hall and her husband, Denim Cooke, welcomed little Raja in May – and she says that she’s already “angry” with her partner

She began:

“The first time you have a baby you’ll notice a few injustices.

“The second time you have a baby you’ll be used to them. And the third you could accept it or you could just move out.

“At some point, unless your the exception and in an extremely progressive relationship, your gonna got angry.”

Constance went on to explain how she carries “the mental load of our baby”, and that she’s the one who knows when he is hungry, tired or needs a bath.

When you help a new mum you aren’t just helping her, When you bring her and her family home cooked meals, Or take her older children to school for her, Or show up with nappies, nappy wipes, milk and bread, Or take her kids for a sleepover on the weekend.. Your not just cooking bolognese or spending your time with her kids or doing a supermarket run.. Your buying her time. Time with her new baby, doing the most important thing that a new mother can do. Teaching that baby what love and connection and attachment feels like. Time that she would have never gotten back. I know first hand the difference between being a stressed and lonely mum and a well supported relaxed one makes. Since Raja was born my house has been a revolving door of help that has bought Raja and I the most peaceful transition and bond and connection. If you are one of those people, that brings the lasagna, drops off the wine, picks up the kids.. you are a modern day hero. You keep this world turning. And I want to say thank you. Love Raja and his mum ?

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She continued:

“My husband will happily bath him, or cuddle him.. when he’s asked.

“When my husband is holding him friends ask to take over, if he cries… they give him back to me.

“When he’s smiling my husband picks him up, when he’s grumpy he gives him back.

“The other day I was giving my husband a kick up the arse to get ready quicker so we weren’t late and he turns to me and says:  ‘Calm down, I’ve been looking after the baby all morning…. for you..’

Raja you are just what this world needed.

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“Wait what? For who? Oh me? Doing me a favour?

“Hang on should I get you some cash? What’s the rate for a babysitter these day,  $16 an hour?

“When I need to leave the house without the baby I must book it in, ‘darling I’m going to the shops, you have Raja, I’ll be 20 mins’.

“Nobody reminds me that I have my baby when they leave.
If I ask my husband to change a nappy he’ll happily do it… but asking often takes as much energy as changing it.. so why not just do it myself.

“And guess what.. my brain fried.”

Possibly my favourite photo from the birth of Raja…. welcome to the Matriarchy Densy .. Queen just had a baby yo ?? @trinacaryphotography

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She went on to clarify that she didn’t write the post to “bag blokes”, before ending the open letter with a powerful plea for equality.

She wrote:

“I say it because equality doesn’t mean sh*t if it doesn’t start in the home and what better place to start showing your kids what equality looks like then when they first arrive on this beautiful world.

“I say it because I don’t want the stats to keep growing on relationships breaking up in the first year of a baby being born.

“And I say it because I wouldn’t be such a grumpy c*nt all the time if my brain wasn’t completely f*ck-eyed single handedly micro managing every member of this god forsaking family!”